Friday, September 09, 2005

Jack Canfield Helps Us Cleanse Our Past Hurts

Good morning, Successful People!

Are you feeling motivated this morning? I certainly hope so. I know that I am!

Our exciting Breakthrough to Success seminar experiences continued with hugs and two hours of sharing experiences with the affirmations we created and installed yesterday. The most amazing story was told by a woman who was once pregnant, homeless and "crazy". She described how she had decided to give up her baby and take her own life. Now, she's a motivational speaker who is hired by the CEOs who used to give her a quarter on the street to train their employees. It left us all feeling like we don't really have any problems.

Jack Canfield is back to being his original sweet self, and that makes the session more enjoyable for us all.

Next, we picked a partner and began sharing what it is we hide from others, who we hide what from, what it costs us to hide, what we would gain if we didn't hide, what we now want to do and how to do it. This is a powerful exercise for my partner who tells me that he doesn't apply the principles that he teaches others . . . which makes him feel like a hypocrite and keeps him from accomplishing what he would like to accomplish. He commits to change this before he goes to sleep and to share with me what he does by this morning.

From there, we did another hypnotic induction designed to help us identify negative experiences in our past involving our families and to identify better ways of coping. One person shares that this person's mother once described this person as a child as having been "a hole in her diaphragm" which made him feel unloved and unworthy of love. There are some pretty heavy duty reactions to this exercise, and I begin to see how many people are carrying a lot of hurt that saps their self-esteem and energies.

Our final exercise is to do a sort of psycho-drama where we go through anger, hurt, fear, regrets and remorse, wants and needs, and love to deal with old feelings about someone. For most people, this is a parent. The sound of people pounding chairs with towels is almost unnerving to me. It's almost painful to be in the room while people experience so much pain.

People are beginning to deeply bond with one another. They are also reaching out in new ways. People stop me to start chatting based on something I've said in the general meeting. It's a nice experience. Many are interested in starting to read this blog.

What are the lessons from these experiences that you might employ?

First, do you hold grudges against others? If so, the time and effort you put into those grudges is mostly hurting you. Learn to forgive, forget and move on to something you can influence.

Second, do you feel hurt by the way someone has treated you? If you are still dealing with this, it's time to heal yourself. You should seek out the assistance of skilled people if you have been deeply hurt. Otherwise, try talking it out with a loved one . . . and let the hurt go. Turn the hurt into a positive influence.

Third, help someone who is in tough shape. Observing and helping with their problems will make you feel grateful that you don't have such serious issues.

Fourth, bathe yourself in God's love. He is always there for you, and wants to forgive you. You just have to ask for forgiveness, and you will be back in His good graces!

Please feel free to let me know what else you would like to learn, and I'll do my best to help in future blog entries.

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Donald W. Mitchell, Your Dream Concierge

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